When I was at university, I read a book called How we can save the planet. It totally convinced me that if we didn’t act urgently and drastically to curb carbon emissions, the world would become all but unliveable as a result of floods, droughts, sea-level rises and extreme weather. Once I accepted that, no other issue really seemed to matter. Why bother doing anything about homelessness, mental health or poverty, if the rug was going to be pulled out from everyone’s feet within decades anyway?
My girlfriend at the time went to Mexico to work in an orphanage in…
Today I’m sharing three stories of forgiveness that blew my mind.
Imagine you’ve made a video about an issue you really care about. You’ve spent hours producing it and you feel vulnerable about telling the world what you think, but you also feel proud of what you’ve created.
You then post it online and someone comments underneath it, ‘You’re a piece of shit.’
How would you react?
This didn’t happen to me, it happened to the actor, writer and activist Dylan Marron.
Would you be upset? Angry? Maybe just ignore it?
I bet what you wouldn’t do is call up…
To people who hate Trump, this election result might have felt like a relief. The good guys won. But, as has been pointed out several times, this was not the rejection of Trumpism that many were hoping for.
He got more votes than last time, and those 71 million people aren’t going anywhere just because Biden won. Also, 70% of them believe it was not a free and fair election. That is a lot of people to have lost faith in the democratic process.
What interests me most about the US election is the level of polarisation, and the questioning…
It’s not just Hugh Grant. In almost every romance story in our culture, two people get together, something goes wrong and then, eventually, they fall in love and live happily ever after.
This gives us the totally bogus view that once you’re in love with someone, the rest of your life is like the last scene of the film Notting Hill. Picnics in the park, staring longingly into each other’s eyes and bringing up joyful children.
What could be further from the truth?
Being in a committed, long-term relationship is hard. In every partnership, the individuals sometimes rub each other…
Things look scary to me in America right now.
There’s so much fear and anger the country seems to be reaching some kind of breaking point.
Republicans and Democrats don’t just disagree. It’s become more normal to hate each other.
So I feel particularly proud that I and Melissa Abecassis did something that felt very subversive on Thursday night. We invited Trump and Biden supporters to listen to each other, respectfully.
It was very apparent how high tensions were running…
Anxiety is totally normal. I feel anxiety every day. And with all the uncertainty and change that’s happening at the moment, it’s even more understandable to be feeling fearful.
But through practising the techniques I’ve listed below, I have reduced it massively, and I have taught hundreds of people to do the same.
You might not find every technique effective, but I’m sure you will find at least a few of these exercises helpful.
I usually start my meditations with taking some really deep breaths — filling my lungs to maximum capacity and…
There is a formula to James Bond films: Bond must save the world from an evil villain using some cool gadgets, sleep with a beautiful woman and drink a vodka martini along the way.
But where does the bad guy come from?
How did he become the baddie?
The two-dimensional portrayal is mocked brilliantly in the film Austin Powers, in which the bad guy is simply called Dr Evil. His son Scott and his cronies find it very frustrating that he doesn’t want to be rich or successful — he just wants to be evil for the sake of it.
I’m going to be rather presumptuous and guess that this sums up your life story so far:
Once upon a time, in Ancient China, there was a stonecutter. All day he worked really hard, under the hot sun.
One day, he was walking home from work, when he looked through the window of a merchant’s house and saw that he was having a party.
He thought to himself, ‘Look at him having a great time with all his friends, beautiful women, food, wine and music. I wish I was a merchant! Then I’d be really happy.’
And in an instant…
I’ve helped people get a pay rise, a promotion, the best performance review of their career, deal with depression, navigate the rough seas of divorce, overcome anxiety, dramatically reduce their insomnia, break out of a cycle of toxic relationships to find love and feel a deep sense of inner-peace.
There are an infinite number of ways you could help someone to achieve those results, but my approach in based on helping you practice a few key mindfulness-based skills:
As I have become more self-aware, I have realised that there is a part of me that is trying to make everyone else happy, all time, often at the expense of what I want or how I feel. I call this part of me the People Pleaser, and I’ve discovered that everyone has this aspect to them, to some extent, and that it can end up ruining your life.
It causes me to rush around, feeling tense, anxious and stressed. It makes me try to hide my real emotions, beliefs and desires in case they are not desirable. …
My work is all about love. Loving yourself, loving other people and loving the earth. I do that through writing, podcasting, coaching, running workshops.